pawpaw Posted February 20, 2003 Share Posted February 20, 2003 My father is already looking for another dog. I told him he should wait a little bit, but he says he NEEDS to fill the empty space. ( Joe passed on the 14th) And puffy the other dog wont eat because hes depressed, and that is VERY strange/ different for him, when they got puffy from the pound, he was WAY fat! and his favorite thing to do is eat. I can totaly understand him needing to feel regular again, and worrying about puffy, but its only been 6 days! Plus, they thought about getting a puppy... i told him he shouldnt for 2 reasons, 1- they are in their mid 60's and a puppy is allot of work for them, plus being that age, it leaves the door open for a pet that no one can take care of if they should happen to depart this earth... 2- puffy is old and has arthritis, he barely tolerated MiMi jumping all over him, i definatly think a puppy is a no-no for them What do you guys think? should i help him start looking? or try and talk to him some more? ( ihave been looking online at some older shelter Chihuahuas and there are sooo many waiting for a family) tell me what you think...please. * and no i dont mean "that age" as beeing old :p ... but you never know what can happen..just thought i would clear that up before i got yellet at...lol ~pawpaw~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
behle Posted February 20, 2003 Share Posted February 20, 2003 Pawpaw - I think that if your dad wants to get another dog, he should. If your main concern is the extra work a puppy would bring, then there many adult dogs waiting for loving homes like yours. It sounds like your dad and Puffy need another friend. How would Puffy take to another dog? Good Luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bk_blue Posted February 20, 2003 Share Posted February 20, 2003 Geez I don't know pawpaw... will someone be around constantly to look after a puppy? Also bear in mind that a rescue dog will need people around for a little bit to help him/her settle in... I think your dad should get another dog... fair enough your other baby has just gone to the bridge but for some people getting another dog soon after is as much part of the healing process as waiting a year or so. It's up to the individual I guess... good luck and let us know what he decides to do! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mouseatthebusstop Posted February 20, 2003 Share Posted February 20, 2003 I found it helped us, we started to look right away. It was three months after Alice died when we got Paddy and Gladis. It worked for us but I was a little worried about it being too soon :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pawpaw Posted February 20, 2003 Author Share Posted February 20, 2003 Well, i think puffy would like another friend, he does have issues from being abused, aparently he was kicked around allot and left in a crate all the time, i guesss thats why he got so fat. but none of his issues go twords other animals, only people. we have the scars to prove it (ouchy) he has gotten allot better, after 3 years of having him, he knows this is his home now so i think allot of his anger went away. i told his father how hard it is for older dogs to get adopted and he would be doing a really good thing, and thats just what puffy needs if they got another dog. someone at his own pace, old and lazy. but i also told him he should bring puffy with to kinda let him pick his new friend, he just laughed at me on that one and said i watch the animal planet too much. i just dont want him to rush and get the first dog he sees and with him being very emotional from Joe passing it looks like thats what hes gonna do. you know what im saying? I guess i will tell him that i want to search for the dog, at least this way i know he wont get a puppy :p I just E-mailed a Chihuahua rescue group that has allot of older dogs to be placed... maybe we will get lucky. ~pawpaw~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pawpaw Posted February 20, 2003 Author Share Posted February 20, 2003 [quote name='bk_blue'] will someone be around constantly to look after a puppy? Also bear in mind that a rescue dog will need people around for a little bit to help him/her settle in... I [/quote] There is always someone at home, My mother in law, had a stroke years and years ago so she doesnt work and thats why they picked Chihuahuas in the first place, a larger dog would drag her and make her fall. They are very patient with the shelter dogs, and the rug already has old poop stains on it :p and they have had the same routine for 45 years so its the perfect enviroment for a abused/shelter dog. (puppy or not) I just thought he might be jumping into something to quickly. But it is true that everyone grieves differntly so maybe this will help them all, puffy included. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bk_blue Posted February 20, 2003 Share Posted February 20, 2003 good stuff!!! Hope it works out for you guys. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alicat613 Posted February 21, 2003 Share Posted February 21, 2003 You can't tell anyone how to grieve. When my dog passed, our newer dog really helped us through that time. And a friend of mine recently got a new dog right after hers died, and has found it to be very helpful for her grieving process. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShadyLady Posted February 21, 2003 Share Posted February 21, 2003 I recently lost a dog and prior to this I had made an offer to buy another dog she rang to say she would sell me the dog two days after losing my other one I felt it was too soon but the dog for sale was what Id been looking for I felt very guilty but I realized that I was not trying to replace one for the other and that each dog is an individual . Its not for everyone but for some it works I think an older dog is a great idea :-? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Anonymous Posted February 21, 2003 Share Posted February 21, 2003 [quote name='alicat613']You can't tell anyone how to grieve. When my dog passed, our newer dog really helped us through that time. And a friend of mine recently got a new dog right after hers died, and has found it to be very helpful for her grieving process.[/quote] There is no way i would even think about telling someone how to or when to grieve, I dont think there is anyone who would try. thats not even the idea of this post. I just wanted ppl's ideas and thoughts on "me getting involved", I really dont want them to get a dog "just because". These 2 dogs are their first real pets, the never really knew what it was like to live with a dog, (or any animal) over the years with Joe and puffy, they learned to realize that animals DO have personalities...etc. i think in a way he thinks he gonna find another Joe, and i told him there will never be another Joe because every animal is just like a person, different. I did talk to him tonight and he decided to get an older dog, and he said he wont rush it, he said hes gonna just look around, and i told him that he will know when he has found the right one. ~pawpaw~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShadyLady Posted February 21, 2003 Share Posted February 21, 2003 sounds like a good outcome then paw paw you've done well by your dad by the sounds of it good luck in finding the perfect doggie :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
courtnek Posted February 21, 2003 Share Posted February 21, 2003 I got Freebee as a puppy shortly after Jarvis died. I did wait a month or so, because I wasnt sure what kind of dog I wanted, but for me the healing process was much faster with another pet. I am so accustomed to the sound of dog tags jangling that the silence was really bothering me. I went to shelters, saw a lot of dogs I liked, but none of them "clinched" When I went to see Freebee she was already doomed to be a resuce dog. The owner was trying to sell the puppies as "purebred German Shepherds (with long floppy ears???) and I laid it on the line that I knew they were NOT. She gave me the pup for free, which is how she got her name. 5 or 6 of the 9 pups ended up on shelters. I managed to get three of them adopted out to people who wanted a dog. And all of us who got them love them dearly. I'm rambling, I know, but my point is for some people another dog soon after a loss helps the healing process. I hope your dad finds the "perfect pup" for him and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daisysmom Posted February 21, 2003 Share Posted February 21, 2003 Gosh paw paw, I think it might be a little soon :-? To me, it would be like replacing Joe. I don't think I could do it yet.... But again, I agree, everyone does grieve differently. Heavy sigh.... I think I would wait. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alicat613 Posted February 21, 2003 Share Posted February 21, 2003 [quote name='Anonymous'][quote name='alicat613']You can't tell anyone how to grieve. When my dog passed, our newer dog really helped us through that time. And a friend of mine recently got a new dog right after hers died, and has found it to be very helpful for her grieving process.[/quote] There is no way i would even think about telling someone how to or when to grieve, I dont think there is anyone who would try. thats not even the idea of this post. I just wanted ppl's ideas and thoughts on "me getting involved", I really dont want them to get a dog "just because". These 2 dogs are their first real pets, the never really knew what it was like to live with a dog, (or any animal) over the years with Joe and puffy, they learned to realize that animals DO have personalities...etc. i think in a way he thinks he gonna find another Joe, and i told him there will never be another Joe because every animal is just like a person, different. I did talk to him tonight and he decided to get an older dog, and he said he wont rush it, he said hes gonna just look around, and i told him that he will know when he has found the right one. ~pawpaw~[/quote] OH I am sooo SORRY!! I should be more careful with my wording, I did not mean to say that you were trying to tell anyone that. That was just my way of saying different people grieve differently. I am really sorry about how it came across and hope you'll accept my humble apologies! I'm a dummy sometimes and forget to read my posts and see how they might be interpreted by others. I think they should get another dog. As you say they learned a lot of dogs and loving dogs. Maybe he is looking for another Joe, but he will soon learn that while there is no other Joe, that the new dog has a special personality too, and dogs can let you cry to them without it being embarassing. Again, sorry for my poor wording. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pawpaw Posted February 22, 2003 Author Share Posted February 22, 2003 [quote name='alicat613'][quote name='Anonymous'][quote name='alicat613']You can't tell anyone how to grieve. When my dog passed, our newer dog really helped us through that time. And a friend of mine recently got a new dog right after hers died, and has found it to be very helpful for her grieving process.[/quote] There is no way i would even think about telling someone how to or when to grieve, I dont think there is anyone who would try. thats not even the idea of this post. I just wanted ppl's ideas and thoughts on "me getting involved", I really dont want them to get a dog "just because". These 2 dogs are their first real pets, the never really knew what it was like to live with a dog, (or any animal) over the years with Joe and puffy, they learned to realize that animals DO have personalities...etc. i think in a way he thinks he gonna find another Joe, and i told him there will never be another Joe because every animal is just like a person, different. I did talk to him tonight and he decided to get an older dog, and he said he wont rush it, he said hes gonna just look around, and i told him that he will know when he has found the right one. ~pawpaw~[/quote] OH I am sooo SORRY!! I should be more careful with my wording, I did not mean to say that you were trying to tell anyone that. That was just my way of saying different people grieve differently. I am really sorry about how it came across and hope you'll accept my humble apologies! I'm a dummy sometimes and forget to read my posts and see how they might be interpreted by others. I think they should get another dog. As you say they learned a lot of dogs and loving dogs. Maybe he is looking for another Joe, but he will soon learn that while there is no other Joe, that the new dog has a special personality too, and dogs can let you cry to them without it being embarassing. Again, sorry for my poor wording.[/quote] Its ok, I thought you might have gotten the wrong idea about my post but i know what you mean. even if it was ment in "that" way, every one has an oppinion or differnt way of saying things and thats what i wanted to hear/read . So no need for apologies :) but thank you. ~pawpaw~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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