I've made a decision

[imported_Kat]

After I come back from Texas I'm getting a Border collie puppy. My Dad is still saying no and I haven't spoken to him for 2 weeks now and since this business with Meg started, I've been miserable. My family have accommodated my Dad for many years while he studied and went through the court case and we always have revolved around him, so now things are going to change. He got his dream of getting a dog when he got Zoe near 14 years ago. I have worked so hard at school and uni and at anything I have done and I feel that i have never been rewarded for it.

I feel at the moment that I have no purpose in life and I am just miserable and sinking deeper into unhappiness. Its not like me to be unhappy like this either.. I've just been going to see Meg and sitting stroking her and talking and crying to her through the fence. I did that again today then came back home and sat on the step with Zoe outside. Bless her heart , Zoe was nudging me and whopping me with her paw trying to comfort me, so I spent some time with her and brushed her and just stroked her..shes nearly 14 years old now and she has her own problems but its like she just forgets all that when someone needs comforting. I just sat in misery and then weighed up the options coming to the conclusion that life is too short. Dogs are my life and I have an excellent record with training so its not like I am a beginner.

If he kicks me out of the house, then fine but I dont really think he would if it came to the crunch...I'll take that risk but my mind is set and I am getting my own puppy.

[courtnek]

Kat, did you ever sit down and tell him exactly how you feel, like you did just now? I knowits sometimes easier to share pain with friends, rather than family, and it doesnt sound like he's been real supportive of you in the past....but maybe just coming right out and saying this exact same thing to him, or writing it down and leaving it for him, might do the trick.

he's your dad, as pig headed as they can be(call my son and he'll tell you all about it) he still loves you. its worth a shot, and even if he still says no,at least you will have cleared the air for when you come home with your new puppy. best of luck to you, and we are all rooting for you.

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[kendalyn]

Can you move out into your place anyway? It might be easier to raise a puppy in your own apartment.

If not, I think Courtnek's advice was very good. :-)

Good luck!

[CincoandDahlilasgirl]

[quote name='Kat']near 14 years ago. I have worked so hard at school and uni and at anything I have done and I feel that i have never been rewarded for it.

I feel at the moment that I have no purpose in life and I am just miserable and sinking deeper into unhappiness. Its not like me to be unhappy like this either.. I've just been going to see Meg and sitting stroking her and talking and crying to her through the fence. .[/quote]
I felt that way to and my dad was being like how your dad is being and he said no everytime I asked him for a dog. But then he walked into my room and saw me browsing sites like petfinder and he also found out where I was spending most of my Friday nights and Saturdays...at HS. So one day I'd been thinking of how o reson with him but turns out I didn't have to. 2 days later we had Cinco.

[JackieMaya]

I think that's a great idea for you to get a puppy, Kat! But I also think it would be a good idea to let your dad know how you really feel and how much this means to you.

I've suffered from clinical depression for over 20 years, and have been real depressed lately. I know that having a puppy to train (Pooh Bear) will help me out of my depression.

Good luck!

[Guest Anonymous]

I really think if nothing else you should print out your post and leave it to where your dad could see it. It could open the lines of communications and make it easier to start talking to him.

[imported_Kat]

Thanks for your words everyone :D I'm going to write him a letter that explains my thoughts and my emotions and I will give it to him at the airport before I fly to Texas in 2 weeks time. Each time I try to talk to him it ends in a yelling match and at least this way he can't interrupt my words. It would be easier to do this with his consent but it will be happening, regardless of his objections.